Marie, who is profoundly deaf, came to live with us at the age of 7 years old.  At first she appeared to be your typical “tom boy”, but then she began to exhibit symptoms of being something more…symptoms of being an actual boy.  Quite simply, she TOLD me she was a boy.  She would only wear boy clothes, (including boy’s underwear.)  She refused to use the Ladies Rest Room so we found the family and unisex restrooms if she had to go to the bathroom in public.  She begged me to let her get her hair cut short, but her birth mother’s rights had not yet been terminated and she would not give permission for Marie to get a haircut, so Marie would pull it up in a pony tail on top of her head and wear a baseball cap everywhere.  She looked like a boy and she acted like a boy.  She did not want me to tell people she was my foster daughter, insisting I tell them she was my foster son.  Swimming at the public pool was problematic because they did not allow t-shirts.  Because she wore boys bathing trunks, she always wore a shirt.  The lifeguards always told her she couldn’t swim unless she took her t-shirt off.  I obtained a letter from her doctor indicating due to her “disability” she needed to wear her t-shirt while swimming.  I still had to argue with each new lifeguard that there was a letter on file which indicated she was allowed to wear a t-shirt as a reasonable accommodation under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

Because Marie was deaf, most people did not know the extent of her insistence that she was a boy.  She did not hear me introduce her as my foster daughter, and the use of male/female language did not reach her ears, so in some ways it was easier to deal with socially.  She knew she was a “boy”, she looked like a boy, so she assumed everyone thought she was a boy.  Somehow the fact that her name was Marie was feminine escaped her, but that was because as a seven year old who was deaf, I doubt she knew the context of male/female names.  Difficulties did arise when relatives and friends gave her “girl” presents or try to give her “girl” clothes.  She would look at them as though they were crazy.  Didn’t they KNOW she was a BOY!!!

I accepted Marie for who she was.  She was allowed to behave in the manner in which she was comfortable, and if the only problem was finding a unisex bathroom, then we were lucky.

At her ten year old visit with her family practitioner, she blurted out to him that she was a boy and that she did not have the right part. She begged him to “sew a penis” on her.  He was very comforting and reassuring, and said she was fine the way she was for now and when she was older she could make that decision.  He told her that things might change in the meantime.  She begged and cried and said she didn’t want to wait, but he said she was too young to make that decision.

Marie continued to insist she was a boy, and when she was adopted she was allowed to get a short haircut.  She was very adorable, boy or girl, with short cropped blonde hair and gorgeous big blue eyes.

By the time she was eleven, Marie had become accustomed to our family and she felt supported and accepted.  She also felt safe.  She and I had started to bond, (something which she was reluctant to do because she had promised her birth mom she would not love me.)  I bought a book for girls on puberty, “The Care and Keeping of You”.  Knowing she thought she was a boy, I was cautious in bringing this subject up.  Reading this book, however, had an amazing effect on her.  She was excited.  She was thrilled.  We read if from cover to cover until the cover was worn out.  She would bring it out to show anyone who visited, (male of female.)  We had to go to the store to buy sanitary napkins, and she insisted on buying 10 packages “just in case”.  She asked many questions and I answered them as straightforward as I could.  She shyly admitted to me that she was happy to be a girl.  She told me she only SAID she was a boy because men “hurt girls” and she didn’t want to be hurt any more. She said “the men” never hurt her brother, so she decided if she was a boy she was safe. Marie did not realize the huge significance of this admission.  She had finally lived with us long enough so she felt safe to become the girl she really was.


 

 

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Comments on: "The Girl who said she was a Boy" (323)

  1. secretshadows said:

    Awww…….poor kid. I can certainly understand her reasoning, and she is most definitely not the first kid and won’t be the last to come to the conclusion that safety was to be found by being male. I am so glad that she was able to feel safe enough to talk about it, and feel safe enough within herself to BE herself…..a girl. 🙂 Very touching.
    ~Secret Shadows

  2. Just found your blog! How special is this story! I love it!

    • I was just wondering how you happened to come across this post. It is an old one and all of a sudden it is getting tons of readers!

      • I found it because you liked my post and this is one of your posts listed in the email notification. I don’t know how they choose them, but I’m assuming it’s based on likes or traffic.

      • Same here. It was a link. I commend you for the service and ministry you are providing these children. You are an awesome lady.

      • Same as they said – it was a link. Old or not, thank you for posting it. 🙂

      • Yep, it showed up in my email notifications because you liked one of mine. This is such a bittersweet story. It is so sad that such a sweet child would have been through such trauma to come to that conclusion but wonderful that you were able to gain her trust and show her the beauty of being a woman.

      • same here – it showed up on one of the email notifications that you’d liked my blog posting – do you mind if I repost – not on the blog you liked (god in diverse places) but on a second blog I have as a social worker?

      • Sure! Always glad to help someone out in such a noble profession!

      • I came across it because when you ‘liked’ one of my posts I was alerted via email. The email gave me a link to your blog and had this particular post listed as a sample post. It looked interesting to me so I clicked on it and here I am.

        Nice work with Marie by the way. Gender issues can be such a sensitive subject.

  3. You have an incredible gift for loving your children just as they are, which in turn allows them to become everything they can be.

    I wish I had your talent for letting go of my own plans and just letting my kids and grandkids just be.

  4. optimisticgladness said:

    This is a beautiful story. These kids have a special place in my heart. They inspire me.

  5. What an incredible story. So glad she worked things out. How amazing that having one’s period (or getting it soon) was a blessing!

  6. A beautiful story by a beautiful and very special mom. Interestingly, my daughter – the one with the turtle pond – is a nurse studying for her masters, and will soon be a pediatric nurse practitioner. Her thesis is on best practices in diagnosing gender identity issues in young children, and appropriate interventions. I cannot wait to share your story with her.

    • I think that is sooooo awesome about your daughter’s interest in gender identity issues. It has always been an interest of mine, that’s why when she said she was a boy, I didn’t go running for the hills!

  7. This is a beautiful story.

  8. thank you for sharing this story. it is an incredibly interesting insight. I wish every happiness to this little girl and her adoptive mother.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words.
      Actually, she has gone back to wearing boy clothes and hair cut, but not so much to hide herself, but because it is her choice. Now I know it is not because she is a boy “inside”, but prefers to dress as a boy on the outside. She is happy with herself and that is all that matters!.

  9. Thank you for sharing this story. We often do find that life situations beyond our control can prevent us from really being honest with ourselves and being who we really are. I am glad Marie felt safe and comfortable enough to be honest and confess to you her true feelings. She sounds like a very mature young woman.

  10. That’s a beautiful story. I love your capacity for acceptance.

  11. It’s amazing how truth manages to finally come out so healing can begin. Truth for some people never does and they never heal.

  12. Kids can be so perceptive and see things that grown ups don’t even notice. she seems like a smart girl and is blessed to have someone she trusts enough to feel safe with! Blessings ~

    PS. Thanks for stopping by my blog for a moment… I appreciate it very much. Sorry I was rather irritable… 😀

  13. It takes a special person to do what you do. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I look forward to reading more of your blogs. I am single parent and even though my daughter doesn’t have a disability I think I could learn a lot about patience from you.

    • 5kidswdisabilities said:

      Thank you for your kind comments. I guess I’m lucky because I was born patient, (having a brother who was severely multiply disabled and requiring a lot of care…but I loved him to pieces!)

  14. Thank you visiting my blog because it got me to yours! I love this story and all its implications but most of all I love you for accepting her just the way she thought she was and really was. I have a daughter with autism and have had similar conversations about acceptance. You’re wonderful. Can’t wait to read more!

  15. Thanks for liking my text. I have read two of yours, and they are touching and so well written. I believe that you do wonders with your kids and I admire you for your work, your sense of humour and your capability to love. I grew up with a severely disabled father (WWII); and I feel compassion for disabled people, their loved ones (and carers). It is great that you want to make the world a better place by accepting your children’s personalities, loving them and helping them to live a fulfilled life. I hope that you have enough support and love yourself. I am sure that your kids love you to bits. Take care, G

    • 5kidswdisabilities said:

      Thank you SOOOOOO much for your kind words. I just think I lead an interesting and adventuresome life with a couple of great kids!

  16. What a big, loving, accepting heart you have! You made it safe for her to be herself…whoever it was. That is truy love.

  17. Thanks for sharing your daughter’s story.

  18. Thanks for your comments about my blog. I think that your blog will help so many people. I was deeply touched by the way you tookmthis child into yourmhomenand intonyour hearts.
    Jill

  19. This is a great post. It is amazing to think that people like you exist-so many believe that things shouldnt be forced on kids-blue for a boy, pink for a girl. You have shown true respect to a very, very special child. Well done to you.

    • Thank you so much. I’ve never believed much in the whole gender thing…my son loved to play with Barbie and Ken and my daughter loved to play cops and robbers. All part of normal life…

  20. Such a great mama, for allowing her to feel safe, loved, accepted and to be herself! Thank you for sharing!

  21. An amazing story ♥

  22. Awesome blog. I am dealing with two teenagers that are not liking being girls who are expected to like boys…. So they are looking to other girls for their “relationships”. But they claim to be “undecided” in their positions. They will love who their heart tells them to love, whether it be a boy or a girl….

    • I commend you for accepting them. My daughter, who has recently taken to dressing like a boy again, says she has not made up her mind whether she likes girls of boys. (Because she is deaf, there is sometimes an understanding problem.) I told her that whoever she would feel comfortable having sex with when she is older. SEX?????? She screamed. EEEWWWWW!!! I don’t want to have sex with anyone ever!

      • Mine are disgusted by the idea also. Which for now is exactly what I want them to think and say. But I pray that it is just a phase and not the demise of any future relationships.

      • Blessed, please be aware that their future relationships do not have to be doomed by lack of interest in sex. From what I have been reading online, there are plenty of “asexuals” out there who find each other and have loving, lifelong monogamous relationships. Your kids may change their minds in time, but if they don’t, there is still happiness available out there.

  23. As a past preschool teacher with integrated classroom including 8 special needs and 4 typically developing children (am and pm) for 9 years, I relate to your stories so well. I have never walked the same walk you have but found a lot of truth, love and meaning in your blog. Thank you!

    • I admire you! I could never work all day as a teacher like that. I love my kiddos, but one of the joys of raising them is that they went off to school. Teachers are the real heroes! (I have been blessed that my children have had great teachers.)

      • The story was very special and other posts I checked out also. I think each person has a calling and I was blessed to be able to have several years of teaching. I only wished as I approach an older age, that I had made a more constant number of years. But I was a child care provider for over 7 years and must remember those years as “priceless” due to time I could not get back if I had taught those years.

  24. Wow – what a sad way to have to cope with life. The way you handled things was so amazing. It is reat that she can now be who she truly is and not be afraid.

  25. So sad, and yet encouraging that she found a safe place to be herself.
    Thanks for sharing and for stopping by The Brass Rag. Come back and see us again soon. Meanwhile, happy writing.

  26. Your story was so touching, It’s good to know that there are people out there who care for these kids and show them the love they deserve.

  27. WOW! Thanks for sharing and stopping by my blog. Marie is so blessed to have someone like you to understand her, I’m sure your relationship, will bring the much needed healing she desires. As a survivor of child abuse myself, I strongly believe in the power of pure love. Continue to pour out your love to your children. God Bless.

  28. Wow. I think I would have handled this completely wrong. Praise God that He shed light on the origin of this and allowed it to be resolved before it took root in her life. What a patient, loving, kind momma you are.

    Blessings,
    Alyson

  29. I am sitting here just thinking…WOW. This is an amazing, touching story. I am moved beyond words. Thank you for being a parent who shows their children love and acceptance to the fullest extent. Your love and acceptance will change this young girls heart and life forever.

  30. What an amazing story, thank you for sharing! I can’t imagine the pain and fear she must have felt to be that adamant not to be a girl. My middle daughter, when she was in preschool, would cry because she wanted to be a boy, not a girl. I happily accepted her for who she was and bought her “boy” clothes and “boy” toys. I wasn’t sure what would happen in the future, but I am very careful with my 3 girls to try not to label things as “for boys” or “for girls”…that is one of the most frustrating things to me about our culture. My oldest is fascinated by science, hates the color pink & is involved in engineering. Now my middle daughter is ok with being a girl, but we still have problems with kids telling her she can’t be a fire fighter or play with certain toys because she is a girl…she will never like barbies or wearing dresses, it’s just not who she is. It is so wonderful to hear of other parents who are happy to let their children be who they are. No doubt your unconditional love allowed her to attach to you and become comfortable enough to share the truth. 🙂

  31. Wow. what a great interesting blog, you’re doing a great job! And thanks for visiting my blog 🙂

  32. I was brought to tears with Marie’s story!!! I am looking forward to reading more of your blog posts.
    Jenness

  33. That’s a powerful story about an amazing child. Thanks for sharing.

  34. I really enjoyed your blog, and how you portray the complexity of decisions about how to deal with gender. Marie is obviously a very thoughtful girl, and must be a rewarding child.

    You would find Ali Smith’s book ‘Girl meets Boy’, interesting. It’s a retelling of the myth of Iphis as a modern tale of corporate, personal and sexual rebellion.

    And thanks for stopping by my blog ‘A prehistoric playschool’ at http://davidfrankscambridge.wordpress.com/

    • Thank you for your kind words. It is funny because I have always been interested in the concept of gender and identity, so when Marie presented this challenge, I was “cool” with it.

  35. What a fantastic post! Marie is so lucky to have you as you treated her `emerging` years so sympathetically and, I suspect (not having any medical qualifications) correctly.

  36. What a beautiful story! You’re doing a great job with these kids.

    • Thanks. The fact is, I really enjoy kids. (I’d much rather have lots of kids rather than have to do housework….I have an excuse not to do it if I am too busy with the kiddos!)

  37. An amazing story. Delighted to be connected with your blog.

    Blessings to you and yours……

  38. Wow, what a story to tell and so beautifully and artfully told. I believe she has since adjusted to her identity and is now comfortable with it. Thank you so much for sharing, i will pass on the link for others to read and maybe people can gain something of it in understanding themselves or thier own children. I also wanted to thank you for your comments to my blog, Blessings, Wekiva BT

  39. WordsFallFromMyEyes said:

    This is enormous, absolutely enormous, and I wish you blessings galore for taking her in. The men didn’t hurt her brother so she decided to be a boy. I relate to this in my anorexia, as I consciously wanted to be loved by male/my father & thought being skinny was the only way I was loveable, but also I did not want to be a woman (didn’t get my period until 18). I did not want to be a woman. Yep, I understand her completely.

    Amazing, and wonderful story. 10 packs “in case”. And you bought them… Just wonderful. xx Noeleen

  40. Wow! What an amazing story. We as adults are sometimes oblivious to the hurt and pain that children endure as well as witness. Your story should be a lesson to others that are so quick to judge.

    Thanks for visiting my blog. I loved your post and look forward to visitng more often.

  41. I really just wanted to say who very moved I was to read your entry on Marie. What a truly amazing person you are, and what a truly amazing family you have and I look forward to catching up on more of your entries.

  42. Wow. I’m completely blown away by this post and incredibly impressed and moved by your ability to handle this situation so wonderfully and perfectly. It casts my frustration and anxiety about my own kids’ issues (like my son being negative and not putting effort into his schoolwork, or my daughter’s bizarre stubbornness about riding a bike) in a whole new light.

  43. Thank god for you. I admire your patience and how you were not connected to any outcome. As a result, nature was able to come to its own logical conclusion.

  44. I love this story. You must be a terrific mom; and Marie sounds like a wonderful person. (makes me want to meet her & give her a big hug)
    -Skye

  45. It’s so amazing how we find ways to shield ourselves from pain. Your daughter sounds amazing and is very strong.

  46. You’ve taught a great lesson in how to love and allow others time to work through their pain with patience and acceptance. Thank you for sharing this part of your life.
    Warmth and Peace

  47. What a beautiful story. I’ll be checking out the rest of your blog now. 🙂

  48. I will follow your unique blog and invite you to follow mine as well.Best wishes, beebeesworld

  49. Beautiful story and very moving!

  50. So sad for a seven year to go through all that trauma. But I’m so glad she has you to guide her. You are an inspiration.

  51. The poor little thing. This is so interesting on several levels. I find it amazing the kinds of things we don’t understand for sometimes a long time – and that when we finally do, it’s a broader understanding than we dreamed it would be. Thank you for sharing this.

  52. As someone who has worked extensively with Deaf children as well as with Trans adults, I thank you for being accepting of Marie’s gender fluidity throughout life and for providing a safe, accepting and nurturing environment. The world needs more people like you.

  53. Thank you for visiting by blog. I appreciate it :))… also, I stopped by and came across this post… and it was heart rending. I honestly don’t even know how to express what I felt. I assumed she must have been abused, and that’s why she insisted on being a boy. This is awful…but I’m so glad to hear that at least now she obviously feels safe enough to confide in you. She is very lucky to have you in her life. Thank you for caring in a world that lacks love. God bless you!

  54. Stunning. What walls out little ones build to cope with their trauma. How much patience and love it takes to allow the space to heal…

  55. strawberryquicksand said:

    Holy cow – that’s a serious story. When I got to the end I felt a little tear well up in my eyes. Isn’t it dreadful that something had to happen to make her modify her behaviour in such a way. It’s an amazing step forward to have her reveal that secret to you. xo

  56. Thankfully she was lucky enough to have very understanding parents in you, to give her the time to figure herself out. In a way I’m relieved to hear it was only a “phase”, for her sake, as I can only imagine the trauma and stigma involved even with a supporting family.

    • I was also relieved to know if was a symptom of her abuse and not how she physically felt inside. Relieved because of the problems and stress that would result if she actually “was” a boy, but not because we would love her or support her any less.

  57. Hi, just a moment back I was searching for the information on the same topic and now I am here. Really well executed blog. This is really informative and I will for sure refer my friends the same. Thanks

  58. you are a stellar mum. Love to Marie. May she never be hurt again!

  59. abbieclair said:

    Reblogged this on very vintage and commented:
    Amazing story

  60. What an amazing story! Thank you for sharing. When in was little, I hated wearing my own clothes…I was forever sneaking into my brothers dressers and snitching their clothes. I hated pink and “girly” outfits because I liked to climb trees and get dirty, and girl clothes just didn’t work for that. I was always thankful that my mom didn’t argue or get angry when I wanted to “dress like a boy.” I eventually grew out of stealing their clothes, but I still lean towards jeans and t-shirts even as an adult. Anyway, sorry for the long reply. Thanks for stopping by my blog…I will be following yours!

  61. I love your writing! Wonderful to see that unconditional love and support win over fear and hurt in the end 🙂

  62. What an incredible story! My heart breaks for her past, but is hopeful for her future now that she’s found your family!

  63. Marie is so lucky that she had you. You are a wonderful mother with a caring heart.

  64. Wow, what an awful thing for a kid to go through. Abuse notwithstanding, I’m now curious about transgender kids with disabilities and whether or not they get their preferences taken seriously (looks like they don’t).

    Thought-provoking post!

  65. I really enjoyed your post about Marie and quite relieved with the ending but could not help being curious about her statement concerning men hurting women. She had obviously been socially aware of the victimisation of women by men, at such a young age, this was quite heart breaking. Please continue to care for others, the world requires many more like you.

  66. Hi, I also got here through a link from an email telling me you liked a blog-thing of mine… Reading this, I felt a strong inverse resonance with your daughter. I’m MTF transgender – I was abused in childhood, and hid my girlself in a protective coma, because I didn’t want her to go through what my boybody was dealing with. Since I finally began to wake up and transition, I’ve had to deal with PTSD too, since stopping repressing my girlself turned out to mean stopping repressing trauma too, but it’s a price I’m very willing to pay. Sometimes you have to rebreak the bone to set it properly, before you can dance…

    I’m very happy for your daughter that she has you around, to make her feel safe enough to be unsafe, in a healthy way, and let go of old ‘certainties’ into a new unknown. Well done, all of you (that sounds patronising now I’ve written it, but I really mean it). xx

  67. You are a beautiful person for allowing that little girl go through the healing process in the safest way possible. You listened to what she was telling you she needed and you gave it to her. That kind of love and compassion can only come back to you. This story really touched my heart.

  68. […] The girl who said she was a boy. […]

  69. amazing story… I am glad Marie found herself whichever way … at the end…. thanks for visiting my blog and liking it 🙂

    ps: hats off to you

  70. very touching story. Honestly, i admire your courage. Thanks for liking my blog.

  71. Goosebumps and tears. Thank you for sharing your daughter’s story. My older daughter also adopted a girl who preferred being a boy for the same reasons. Eventually, she too became the woman she was meant to be.

  72. Wow. What a powerful experence! Marie was lucky to have you.

  73. What a powerful influence you had on this darling! I truly believe that when we simply accept people the way they are then they can shine with their brightest light. Bless you and your happy family!

  74. Tears streaming down my face while reading your post, but also smiling because of your love and acceptance. You’re amazing!

  75. Wow, and wow and wow some more. What an incredible story. I am so new to all this and have so much to learn. I don’t know how you had so much patience during those years and knew exactly what to do help her cope with her journey and figure it out for herself at the right time for her. You are wise and I look forward to reading more. My heart breaks for what she went through as a little girl to have to go through that confusion for so many years. My heart also weeps with joy for the peace and clarity she got later in life and the way you so beautifully handled the situation. I dont’ think I could have had that much paitence for that many years. I certainly hope that God gives me your kind of wisdom when/if put in these situations.

    • I am fortunate in that I was raised by a mom for whom NOTHING was a problem…my brother was born with Rubella syndrome,and he was blind, deaf and severely developmentally delayed. We treated him like any other child,and learning that acceptance and an early age just ingrained in my little brain that nothing is too much of a problem that it can’t be overcome, or at least accepted.

  76. This is a lovely post; I really enjoyed reading it, specially as I am about to write a blog (hopefully) about the feminine; for me and many of my generation, the switch from wanting to be a man to loving being a woman was difficult; some never made it.

  77. I’m so happy that Marie has you for a mom.

  78. Your post was thought provoking and brought me to tears. I am so glad that your little girl has a mama like you.

  79. God bless the children. And He has by bringing an angel like you into their lives.

  80. Thank for visiting my site and opening your door to your site. What a beautiful story. Children are precious. You are so blessed.

  81. Heartbreaking, but Marie has apparently found the right home who will let her be whoever she needs to be–regardless of the reasons.

  82. Wow bless her little heart… at least she is safe now

  83. A powerful story and a real testimony to how clear something becomes when you can understand the underlying motivations behind actions. What a smart girl to make such an observation and conclusion! 🙂

  84. God bless you and your family for accepting Marie for who she was and loving her into security, acceptance, and wholeness. A beautiful story! Thank you for sharing it!! Thank you for coming to JanBeek so I could learn about your site. I look forward to exploring it and sharing it with my son and daughter-in-love who have adopted 4 children – some with special needs – and are trying to remain sane (no easy feat!).

  85. Thank you for sharing this story of redemption with us. We have an adopted son with special needs and my heart if FULL when I see the love that other parents give to these precious children. Many many blessings to you, friend.

  86. Absolutely amazing story! And I totally admire you for what you’re doing! God bless you!
    Thanks for liking my blog too!

  87. Thank God for people like you and having a sensitive doctor who could deal with those kinds of issues. I’m so happy she decided that she is a girl and doesn’t have to go through all those additional difficulties as well as those she already works through.

    • Yes, I am so glad she decided she is a girl, also. Not that I would have loved her any less had it gone the other way. It just would have made her very difficult life more difficult, as you pointed out.
      Thanks for commenting.

  88. Thank you for sharing such a moving story but mostly thank you for being what you are. The little girl is very fortunate indeed to have found you and probably vice/versa. It is so sad what kids are subjected to. I’m thankful there are some like you who help alleviate their pain.

  89. This is an amazing story. God Bless.

  90. What a great story – I’m glad she eventually felt comfortable enough with you to accept that, even as a girl, she wouldn’t get hurt.

  91. What a moving story and how beautifully you handled everything. You loved her from the beginning and didn’t try to change anything about her. How lucky she is to have you! God Bless!

  92. Thank you for this profound post. It’s a subject not often talked about and I appreciate your bringing it out in the open. I have a few friends with whom I must share this, and other posts of yours. Thank you for liking my post on light in darkness. I hope you come back for more! Ilene

    • Thank you for your thanks!
      I always thought it was a mother’s job to love her children unconditionally, that is is natural for me to just love my kids for who they are. I have learned through my children that their birth moms had other ideas…

  93. This is really beautiful, and had me tearing up at the end. Thank you for handling this with such grace, and for sharing the story.

    I’m curious on your view of very young people undergoing transition, such as Kim Petras and others. I think it’s critical that children have understanding parents like you to guide them through the gender minefield and help them to become whoever they truly are. I’ll be curious to see where Marie ends up!

    Following. 🙂

    • I am not an expert on transgender issues, but I know I would love my daughter unconditionally. She went to school with a girl who left the country and came back a young man, (only 14 years old.) It was funny because my daughter and the other kids in school didn’t think anything of it, and easily transitioned from calling him Anna to Steven.
      In my daughter’s case, because of her severe abuse, the doctor and I were not sure that she really did feel like she was a boy, or that she only wanted to be a boy so she wouldn’t get hurt. He was very gentle in his discussions with her, telling her that it is such a life changing decision that she should wait until she is an adult to make up her mind for sure. It was fine for her to dress and identify herself as a boy, but that she really needed to be older to make any more physical changes. In her case, she ended up identifying with being a girl, but it could have gone either way.

  94. […] I wasn’t prepared for the punch in the gut the next article gave me.  The Girl Who Said She Was a Boy is by a blogger who has raised five children with disabilities.  I’m grateful she liked one […]

  95. White Rabbit said:

    Your daughter’s story sounds a lot like my story. Growing up, I felt like a normal girl, but a year or two after beginning puberty, I developed gender dysphoria. The dysphoria became severe in my high school years, and I suffered greatly because I genuinely felt like a boy but I couldn’t live as one. I started taking low levels of testosterone when I turned 18 against my parents’ wishes- I had planned a few years prior to remain at low levels for at least a year.

    I immediately felt something within me change, but I couldn’t pinpoint it until I had been taking it for 3-5 months. The masculine part of my persona was definitely crying out to be developed, possibly because of how badly I was treated by men from a young age, like your daughter was. I stopped dressing like a boy at 5 months and after being on low levels of testosterone for 15 months, I stopped taking the injections. At first I felt scared because I had, in a way, flipped a hormonal light switch, so I needed to adjust to the new-old system. But I feel fine now.

    I recognize that I do have a masculine side that is equal to the feminine side I present in my daily life. The dysphoria I felt for many years was genuine and I suffered greatly from it, but it was all a necessary process for me to understand my completeness as a human being.

    • White Rabbit said:

      Also, as a trans/former-trans person, I am overjoyed at all the positive and understanding replies to this post. ❤

      • I, too, was surprised at the positive responses. I will tell you that Marie herself did not always have a positive response from others. However, because she is deaf she was shielded from most of it, and of course I would never share things like that with her.

    • I have such empathy for you, and I am glad that you are feeling like the valuable human being that you are!

  96. White Rabbit said:

    Reblogged this on Follow The White Rabbit.

  97. that is a wonderful story and i’m glad she had someone like you… most people would’ve told her she’s a girl and that’s it but you allowed her to be herself… i myself was a bit of a tomboy when i was little… i never said i was a boy but i wore boys clothes and wanted people to think i was tough… it took me a bit longer to finally let my girly side out… but we all come to such things in our own time…

  98. Amazing story. Who would have thought the reason she insisted on being considered a boy?

  99. You are a very wise and blessed individual. May God continue to bless you and your family! Thank you for sharing this story….from another girl who wanted to be a boy for the same reasons…

  100. Interesting, sad, and inspiring.

    One thing, in France, Marie can often be part of a man’s name. Jean-Marie is a man. Jeanne-Marie is a woman. Claud-Marie is a man. Claude-Marie is a woman. It’s no big deal.

    • That is so funny! We get away with calling her Marie because she is deaf and doesn’t hear it!

      • But don’t you have to just fingerspell it? I mean, she has to be getting it on some level.

      • Her “name sign”, which is a personal ASL sign that stands for her name, is the letter M to the heart. It could be either boy or girl.
        She does catch me if I have a conversation with someone in ASL because I would say ‘”my daughter” and she would poke me and correct me, signing “my son.” It’s not to say that she would always think I’d call her a boy, but to her it happened less often because of the language.

  101. That you were accepting of Marie as either a boy or a girl, but allowed time to play its role is testament to your humanity. When someone has gender issues, to be open and affirming is incredibly important, and lets nature take its course. As Marie enters her teens, the years ahead will be equally challenging, though I think all your youngsters are in the best of hands.

    • Thank you so much for your comments.
      Yes, Marie as a teenager has decided she must be a boy again. She did wear a dress for our son’s wedding last summer,(and she looked gorgeous.) However,right after that she got a crew cut and began wearing male clothing again,right down to the underwear. We purchased a men’s suit for her for her court appearance, and she was very happy with herself and comfortable in her clothes. After all of the trauma she has been through, I consider myself lucky that she can be happy…

  102. How rationally you explain what is a complicated relationship. You have incredible understanding which is a great gift and obviously the reason you foster children.
    My daughter works with ‘socially damaged’ teenagers by running after-school clubs (in our local town) which they use as a refuge or home from home. I am often frustrated at how much time she gives to these clubs while I look after her two boys (I am blessed with two wonderful grandsons) but you’ve made me realise how her understanding is often the only thing between their living normal lives or being sent to institutions.

  103. That’s an amazing story of kindness, patience, and unconditional love. You were obviously a wonderful mother to Marie; she was very lucky to have you – not all of us have been so fortunate – even with our birth mothers. Thank you for the beautiful story!

  104. What a touching and beautiful story. You are a very special mummy.

  105. refusingtopanic said:

    I can appreciate her deductions. I was sexually abused when I was 6 and I dressed like a boy for many years trying to hide as well. Like your daughter I deemed it safer. Eventually, I got counseling and healing for the sexual abuse. During that time I asked specifically to be comfortable with my feminine side. God answered that prayer and now I am a very happy female mom, daughter, wife…yes, even that was dealt with. God can do amazing things! He created us and has a plan for our life for good. When we get to know Him as He really is (not as others have told or shown us how they think He is) and He reveals the whole of who He created us to be, we find great peace there. I pray she will find her peace as well wherever God leads her.
    Blessings.

  106. Marie is lucky to have you.
    God bless.

  107. What a wonderful story. I am so sorry for your daughter’s pain, but how blessed she is to have you!

  108. Motion-Sick Momma said:

    Wow! This is really powerful. Thanks for sharing this.

  109. I enjoyed reading about Marie’s “transformation”, and how she learned to open up and trust enough to be who she really is. You are a wonderful writer, and it’s truly awesome how your love and acceptance is healing this little girl.

  110. Beautiful story. God bless u fpr being so understanding

  111. WOW, I really enjoyed this story. I really felt for your Marie as one of my sons wants to be a girl and then when you reveal the reason it is very moving. I think you managed the entire situation amazingly.

  112. hadassah34 said:

    I think it is wonderful how accepting of Marie you managed to be.

  113. Very moving…If only more people had more compassion

  114. You are definitely a very caring and understanding mom! I truly love the way you respect the feelings of Marie! Love really works, you truly give her your love and support! Give what you seek!

  115. What a beautifully written post. Congratulations on being such a caring supportive mother to Marie. Wow.

  116. I’m grateful for your patient heart towards Marie.

  117. Love your blog! This was a wonderful story. Keep up the good work! Children really need good people in their lives.

  118. This is a beautiful story! Yet again I am astounded at what a patient and wonderful mother you are!

  119. What an amazing story. How right you were to accept her. Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.

  120. I just read your blog about your deaf adopted daughter. You never cease to amaze me with your understanding and patience. I wish my adopted mother did but over the years, she finally “hears” me, accepting who I am. I am happy to be a woman, pretty much a soft butch, but pretty like Ellen Degeneres. I am also deaf. Keep ’em coming and I will read them!! 🙂

  121. I’m coming this way from SewMeHawaii. This was such a “wordpressable” post. It brought tears to my eyes. How lucky your daughter was to have been adopted by a family who was so accepting. I’m sure this situation comes about especially when a girl has been somehow abused. But, for you to just ride it out undoubtedly took patience and faith that all would work out in the end regardless of the outcome.

  122. This made me cry. I’m so happy your little girl found someone so accepting and open minded, so that she could find the comfort and security she needed.

  123. Thanks for the chance to read this amazing story how time and patience can have therapeutic properties. Wish you and your family all the best!

  124. Excellent Story swell written too.

  125. What an absolutely precious story. Tears rolled down my face as read this. Your sensitivity was so evident by the way you presented this. My husband and I did the medicine for a psychiatric clinic for years, I wish there had been more mothers like you.

  126. Reblogged this on iconobaptist and commented:
    This is awesome. A mother with a foster daughter/adopted daughter who thought she was transgender. Turns out that, by waiting to see what she would think as an older person, she became very happy to be a girl as a teen. Mostly about the power of love!

  127. That was a great story you are an inspiration to all that are dealing with your same situation. You are a blessing to the World of the seemingly unwanted children. we know sometimes being special is a more wonderful blessing. We see humanity in a different way entirely. Thank you on behalf of all parents that need your help. Bless you

  128. Beautiful story. She is very lucky to have a special person in her life that allowed her to be herself. One of the things that abusers take away is a child’s ability to choose what is going to happen to them. By you allowing her to make her own choices you gave her a gift that would start the healing.

  129. Heart-felt story. Thank you for sharing this.

  130. Great post! My daughter is in the middle of 2 boys and when my third child was about 6 months old, my daughter decided she was a boy. We went along with it. She dressed in my oldest son’s hand me downs and even peed facing the toilet standing up like a boy. She even fooled her classmates. This went on for almost 3 years until the second to last day at school when she was playing in her yard at school, she ran up to me and said, “Mama, I have to pee.” I told her to run to the bathroom. She came back about 10 seconds later with wet shorts. She didn’t make it to the bathroom. There were no children’s clothing store nearby. I thought quickly and remembered there was a thrift store across the street, so we popped over there. No luck. Only baby clothes. So I took her to the ladies section and found a very long pink and white striped t-shirt. I asked if she wanted to try that on and she said, “Yes.” She put it on and turned to me and said, “Oh, Mama, I’m a girl now!”
    And the next day we went shopping for dresses. The end. Got my girl back. No forcing issues. Just let her come to her own decision.

  131. writewizard said:

    this is a very touching and insightful story. It makes me wonder how many others are afraid to be who they are because of what they’ve been through. So glad you were able to give her a loving home where she was able to feel safe and accepted.

  132. Wow what a truly amazing story.

  133. Hej from Sweden!
    Wow what a story!
    Very beautifully told and touching. I will be back.

  134. Oh my, what an amazing story. Marie is blessed to have you. Thank you for sharing.

  135. What a wonderful story of unconditional love. All too often we project on our children how we think they should be.

  136. What a wonderful story and one that tugs at my heart strings, given my profession as a social worker. Not only are you a gifted writer, you are gifted as a foster parent. You intuitively know exactly what a child needs. God bless. ~Sonia~

  137. I worked with the developmentally disabled for 15 years. So many of them had been abused when they were very young and some were being abused as adults. It breaks my heart to know so many children, disabled and non-disabled, are being abused as I write this. It is the one thing I argue with God about. Free-will just shouldn’t include the abuse of a child. This story was very touching.

    • The whole concept of free will is of great interest to me. I see Marie, and my son Angel, who have PTSD. Both have the capacity of doing something dangerous to others. If they did, it would not be their fault, but if they do it as adults, they would be criminals. I wonder how many people in jail were abused…

  138. What a beautiful story, it brought tears to my eyes! I thought this was going to be a story about a transgendered child, which I’m sure you would have been equally supportive of! This was an excellent, inspiring read! Thank you!

  139. This is a remarkable site written by a remarkable person. Work-wise, I try to encourage people in the UK to take equality, diversity, inclusion and community cohesion seriously, so I shall be recommending the site to students, caring professionals, etc. An inspiration.
    Glad you like “In search of unusual destinations”, by the way. All good wishes for 2013. Phil.

    • I have tried to get my book out to the psychology, social work, and special education departments of colleges, but no one was interested. I do think that my material would be great for any student being trained in working with individuals with disabilities because it tells what it is really like “in the trenches”.
      So, thank you so much for passing along the site for students.
      Also, I love looking for unusual destinations. When my mom was alive, I was fortunate to be able to accompany her to many exotic locales. She did not like touristy places, so we stayed in the rain forest in Costa Rica, at Chichicastenango in Guatamala,and in the heart of Belize. I always had at least 2 of my children with me, and it was a wonderful, wonderful experience. Although she has passed away, I still like to look for places she would have liked to go.

  140. Amazing story. I can relate on so many different levels. Like Marie, I inadvertently found ways to protect myself from men who hurt girls. Profound and inspiring. She is blessed to have someone to accept her and walk her through to victory. God Bless.

  141. Daniel Angel from Cape Cornwall said:

    I enjoyed reading your page ,
    And your wonderful comments
    When I was only sixteen
    I worked at a hospital Called Calderstones in Whalley
    Lancashire looking after the Mentally Handicapped
    I worked in almost all departments
    I got quite attached to all the residents
    and have lots Of beautiful memories
    Being a part of some amazing moments
    Seeing so many changes take place
    And unbelievable things happen
    Through training programs and devoted staff
    I worked there for about 12 years
    Some of the residents needed lots of care
    And some because they walked or talked funny
    Which have been institutionalized over the years,
    I remember one old man called Albert
    He was in his early eighties he had a funny walk
    He had lived there ever since he was a small boy
    To me he was normal quite a gentleman
    Then one day he won the pools
    I said to Albert what you going to do
    With all them thousands of pounds ?
    He said I’m going to buy a new stereo
    for my bedroom ,I was so pleased for him
    Eventually he paid for himself to go to America
    With staff guiding him on his amazing journey
    Have a wonderful week
    ╔╗
    ║║╔═╦╦╦═╗*. . *
    ║╚╣║║║║╩╣* Daniel angel from Cape Cornwall
    ╚═╩═╩═╩═╝.*.*

    • Thank you for your thoughtful comments.Yes, working (and raising) individuals with disabilities can be very rewarding. I love it, and it gives my life meaning.
      Your blog said “Daniel from Cape” and I thought you were from the “Cape”, Massachusetts! Little did I know you live so far away.

  142. An amazing story – how blessed are the children who have come into your home and given a chance to learn life – and how to live in in a different way. I enjoy reading your blog! Thanks for your words!

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  144. Brought me to tears. Great blog!

  145. Great blog! My daughter went through a similar transition…although it was not as long of a process as yours. (She also thought she had to be a boy in order to have power.) Thank you for loving her and allowing her to be herself. You are an inspiration!

  146. What a unique child! I hope she is very happy!

  147. Your acceptance is a wonderful gift to your child.

  148. Thank you for giving your children the space to be who they are. From the very little I’ve read I can see that you are an extraordinary woman. Your children are blessed to have you.

  149. I used to work with kids who had several different disabilites at a school for language development and went to a camp where a little girl actually had a combination of different parts. My best friend who I had taken to assist me with the cabin full of 9 year old girls at the time was the one who had witnessed it and told me about it. I think that was when I realized that there are different people out there with different trials that we can’t even imagine. God bless you for your gift of wanting to parent special kids… you are an inspiration. Glad I found this! I didn’t hesitate to follow… and look forward to reading more.

  150. Wow. Thanks for being there for Marie. I know it took me ten years to finally tell someone that I had been molested as a 7 year old girl. I’m glad it didn’t take that long for Marie to share.

  151. your story was really touching… what an amazing outcome!

  152. What a touching and wonderful story. I`m glad Marie felt safe with you. You do have a special gift and those children are blessed to have you. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story.

  153. Marie was lucky to have you. I am sure it was no mistake she entered your life. Continue embracing your children’s voice.

  154. Tracy Rydzy, MSW, LSW said:

    Incredible story. You sound like a very strong incredible person. Thank you for that wonderful post

  155. I love how you talk about the kids and your life – really enriching. Watched a National Geographic documentary the other night, “The Science of Gender” and it fit with the way I see all people, including your wonderful salad of children who are lucky to have you. If all people could simply be seen as someplace on a spectrum of differences, they could all be just accepted and unconditionally loved the way they are. Thanks for being who you are.
    And aren’t we so lucky when we had wonderful moms who accepted our differences… even luckier when we get to ‘pay it forward’…. 🙂

  156. I am moved to tears with this beautiful story! What an amazing mother you are!

  157. A beautiful story. Thank you so much for writing this piece.

  158. Love the real perspective on life at home:)

  159. what an interesting story, and I’m glad it had such a happy ending. Poor little girl, though.

  160. irishroverpei said:

    An amazing story.

  161. You have given this child the greatest gift. To be who they need to be and grow into who they are. Your love is unconditional xxxxx

  162. Reblogged this on mumstheword and commented:
    This is truly moving. This lady is amazing.

  163. A beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it!

  164. Oh my! What an amazing story! It is a blessing that she wound up with you, as you handled the situation with a grace that allowed her to be safe and to heal. I’m looking forward to reading my way through your blog.

  165. Wow, what an incredible story. I am happy to have read it. I thought it was going to end with Marie becoming a true boy – didn’t realize the power of pre-conceived ideas. Really makes me think about what my kids are saying to me as well. Thank you for this.

  166. This is a truly beautiful story! It really is! I am glad she was able to feel comfortable to tell you that, that says a lot about really good foster parenting and I am very glad we have foster parents out there like you are that takes their time in truly embracing in care of that child to work at his/ her comfort level all the while accepting them for who they are..amazing and kudos to you for that!

  167. Wow. Such love you must have in your home for her to feel that safe. Bless you all on your journey . . .

  168. 1annecasey said:

    Extraordinary. The world is a richer place for people like you.

  169. Reading how you guide, and love, the children in your home, shows how much you care for those in your trust.

  170. Wow, what a beautiful story! Love heals.

  171. Beautiful Story, thanks for sharing.

  172. lizardyoga said:

    Reblogged this on Lizardyoga’s Weblog and commented:
    This is a really interesting story. I don’t know what I think of gender dysphoria: I tend to think that if we didn’t make such a huge deal over gender roles most of it would probably disappear. But all I can say is that this is an interesting case. Not sure if we can draw any general conclusions from it though

    • I think the only conclusion is that parents should be accepting of their children as they are and as they present themselves. Of course, also, the “world” should be more accepting, but we can start with the parents….
      Thanks for sharing the story!

  173. Beautiful ! Thank you so much for sharing this heartwarming story. Kudos for all that you do for your beautiful children 🙂

  174. Powerful story! Thank you.

  175. At first I thought this post is about transgender. But, now I know that is not the case.

    Well, as kids getting older, they learn and understand more. Just be yourself. Be who you are! 🙂

  176. I am glad that she finally felt safe enough to be happy with how she was made. Bless you for your love and good works. 🙂

  177. wow what a phenomenal story. thank you for sharing. what a lucky girl she is to have that kind of unconditional love in her family

  178. Reblogged this on jaelyolondayomommalemus and commented:
    This story brought tears to my eyes.

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  180. This is truly a phenomenal story… thank-you so much for sharing this very private bit of your personal life. All the love and luck in the world to your sweet daughter, it sounds like she had way too many trials and tribulations to make it to her safe place. Thank-you, for providing it for her, you are both very lucky to have one another.

  181. Fostering children is not an easy task because all of them come with baggage of some sort. Adding disabilities into the mix amplifies the task. You are truly a hero in my eyes.

  182. Oh, god, this is so beautiful. I think of myself as very hip and pc, and not sure I would have handled it with that much grace and acceptance. you are a hero. xx a

    • It is amazing what one can do when a child’s feelings are involved, especially a child who has been hurt. You try everything to make that child feel better about herself, even if it challenges previous help conceptions. After all, I learned to love a snake for the sake of my son, Steven!

  183. OMG!!! I love your blog. I respect the work you are doing. You are a great source of inspiration. Keep it up!

  184. You are blessed with these children as they are blessed with you. Love from Charmaine Gordon

  185. A wonderful story, thank you for sharing it and Marie is a lucky girl to have found you. I hope she can stay with you in the future and no longer be afraid of being hurt because she is a girl.

    • She is now a young teen and doing very well. Still shy about being hurt, but she feels free to dress herself comfortably. (I probably created a monster, because now she has orange streaks in her hair!)

  186. What a wonderful story. And what a wonderful mom you are — your children are blessed!!

  187. This story about Marie is profound as well as heartwarming. I’m glad that she is safe with you.

  188. Wow, you sure know how not to sweat the small stuff! You sounded so calm through all her alarm, and your patience and kindness and genuine acceptance really shone through. So glad she’s with you!

  189. Thank you for this!

  190. I know you’ve had heaps of replies but I wanted to add my thank you for this post. This was a beautiful story. You are truly a loving Mom Blessings Janet

  191. Hey really am stunned with your story… I am tom-boyish female, but I love to consider me as female….. May be same kind of feeling I too got when I was young. I have a daughter at home who loves only to wear boys clothes and everyone in the family will say that she is typical copy of me, unfortunately she is not of my own blood. We love her boyish character but we prefer her to be brought up as a girlish way and you have given an option for us to handle her.

    Thanks

    • One comment I have is that even if a child is not of your blood, he/she is still your child. If she is tom-boyish like you were, it may not be in her genetics to be so, but she may have learned it from you!

  192. […] I wasn’t prepared for the punch in the gut the next article gave me.  The Girl Who Said She Was a Boy is by a blogger who has raised five children with disabilities.  I’m grateful she liked one […]

  193. A beautiful story and a beautiful mother and a happy ending!

  194. Your posts always bring tears to my eyes. How bittersweet. You and Marie are so fortunate to have found each other. You tell such wonderful tales of such inspiration and awe.

  195. I was a tomboy too who didn’t like barbies, growing up, unfortunately I wasn’t athletic. But I wanted to be a boy, had dreams of being a boy, not for the harrowing reasons Marie has, but I think because I realized Man had all the advantages and girls had to wear dresses and take care of babies, cook and clean and I wasn’t interested in any of those things. I

  196. What a lovely story. How fortunate she has the support to feel safe to be who she is. I can only wish the same were true for all children.

  197. Wow, what a beautiful story. How wonderful for you and Marie. Acceptance is a precious gift. brad

  198. Oh my gosh. How touching. 🙂

  199. It’s a sad world we live in where a little girl is afraid to be a girl because of unnecessary pain.

    • I agree that it is very sad that she was hurt, as my other children were hurt. I like to think that their lives are better with us. And I also like to think that such tragedies, while they do happen, are overshadowed by the goodness in the world.

  200. This is a beautiful story. Too many children are abused in foster care. Thank you for being patient and helping her. I wish more parents were like that. Individuals like me would have had a more pleasant life as a result.

    You are beautiful.

  201. – sigh –

    It’s terrible what some little girls have to go through. I’m so glad this girl has you, and that you have been able to make her feel “safe” and loved.

  202. Amazing story, thank you for sharing! 🙂

  203. Wow! What a sweeet inspiring story! It shows us the importance of letting a child be who they want to be. Support and encourage them with love.

  204. What a great post. You are a wonderful mom, and I love that you let Marie be who she needed to be without concern or judgement. I love even more that she was finally confident enough to tell you the reason she wanted to be a boy. It speaks to the incredible trust that has developed between the two of you. Thank you for sharing this story.

  205. Wow. What a heartbreaking story with a happy ending. And what a lucky little girl to now have you as her mother. Made me cry, literally. (And I am using that term correctly 😉

  206. I thank you for this beautiful story. Your ability to give this child the time and the love she needed in order to sort out the debris of what must have been a miserable past is awe-inspiring. My daughter is an elementary teacher who encounters children like your daughter more often than I could imagine. I fear they don’t all have the home life you provide. May God bless you and your family, and may he bless and protect all the children who are alone in their battle to survive and grow up.

  207. This is a very intriguing story.

  208. Whew…great job with this.

  209. Reblogged this on The Meandering Social Worker and commented:
    I came across this story by chance. I can’t improve on it, it stands as it is, as an amazing example of the sensitivity needed in dealing with children who have been neglected or abused in some way. It’s why we do the jobs we do – whether we are social workers, foster carers or adoptors or any number of the allied professions. Thank you to the original author for being happy for me to re-blog her post.

  210. Can i be honest and tell you that I had NO idea where this story was going? This almost brought me to tears you see, I wrote about Coy Mathis the other day who is a transgendered six year old and i do not agree with the decision to allow the child to be a girl. I believe that allowing children to make these types of decisions so young can be dangerous. I’d love for you to read that post and comment. Just so we’re clear this is an extremely powerful post. Thank you so much for writing it.

    http://ressurrection.wordpress.com/2013/02/28/pedophiles-are-watching-coy-mathis-and-lil-poopy-what-these-children-have-to-do-with-legalizing-sexual-abuse/

  211. Reblogged this on Love, Life, and Relationships: Overcoming Emotional and Child Sexual Abuse and commented:
    I thought that this post was exceptional. You don’t see it coming, but it ends powerfully and I knew that it would be the kind of story that would fit well in this blog space.

  212. Reblogged this on seeking africa and commented:
    Exceptional Story! Shows the depths to which our mind goes to protect us. I love that this one has a happy ending. It’s uplifting to read, inspiring.

  213. what a touching story!

  214. Nice she had your unconditional love. I trust she will heal more and more with each new day.

  215. I have some similar experiences in my background. I will explore the rest of your blog with interest. Maybe I’ll pick up a copy of your book!

  216. Remarkable, truly. I’ve learned so much here. Thank you for time spent writing. Ill be back.–M.

  217. Wow. What an amazing story! It takes a very special person to raise 5 kids w dissabilities. God bless!

  218. This is such a beautiful story. I absolutely love it. Thank you for sharing.

  219. […] I wasn’t prepared for the punch in the gut the next article gave me.  The Girl Who Said She Was a Boy is by a blogger who has raised five children with disabilities.  I’m grateful she liked one […]

  220. Your posts is extremely helpful.

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